Is the more important duty of the church to bring truth, or to be kind? The answer that everyone will want to grab, "both," is not available. The Old Testament comes down pretty solidly on the side of "truth," though a few characters might fit the "kindness" category, such as Joseph and Solomon. In the New Testament John the Baptist, Paul, and James would vote "truth," Barnabas might say "kindness," and Peter would be conflicted. The important position to know would be Jesus's, and examples could be brought up to support either side.
The denominational churches were all founded from the "truth" camp but have largely moved to "kindness" in the last hundred years. I likely give the impression that I am one who would favor truth even in the face of hurting feelings, and I probably am more on that side of the mark than most people. Yet my own internal impression is that I refrain from mentioning uncomfortable truths most of the time, preferring kindness.
Not all my readers are in the church, but all are entitled to an opinion on the matter. Anyone who grew up in America in the older generations and regularly reads anything with a traditional bent will know and understand enough to comment. It might help if you mentioned that on the way by, though.