Tracy and I wrote our own vows in 1976. Perhaps that is not quite accurate. We had a "scripture duet" that we worked hard on. I can still recall her in her wedding gown saying "She does him good and not evil all the days of her life" before the assembled multitude. Okay, we did not know then that Proverbs 31 was going to become a cliche. So sue us. But seeing that we called it a duet, maybe those weren't the vows. If so, I don't remember the vows. Maybe they were Catholic Standard Issue for the time. The ceremony was very much an expression of our new faith, even though we had both been raised in the church with some seriousness, she Marian Medal in Girl Scouts and valedictorian at Notre Dame Academy, and I still considering three Protestant seminaries with parish ministry in mind. If we had to do all over again, we might do just the same.
And yet, both of us were medieval and renaissance literature trained, anglophilic, and deeply respectful of tradition. Why we thought we could improve on the 1928 Book of Common Prayer, I don't know. It still rings powerfully and captures everything in poetic and concise fashion, doesn't it?
For better, for worse
For richer, for poorer
In sickness and in health
So long as we both shall live.