Don't ask me to be your kid's godfather. I have proven to be useless at it. In fact, being named godfather seems to actually make things worse. Freezes me from action or something. I am godfather to at least 3 young people - I hope there isn't anyone I have forgotten, but there could be. I once asked my wife "We were at Chuck's wedding - who was his best man?" "You were." Oh. So, selfishness or insensitivity could be the cause.