Both agreed that only Americans believe that win-win situations are even possible. One thought that was a positive, the other echoed the opinion of the rest of the world that win-win was just a disguise for the person getting 90% of the good throwing a bone for the one getting 10%. I tentatively (not knowing if it were an offensive stereotype) asked if he meant something similar to saving face. He agreed that this was exactly it. Victors in China either eliminate their opponents entirely or give them some 10% to save face. (Okay, you said it, not I.)
The other was quite adamant. No, in America it is sometimes, even often true. It is not a cliche because it is a delusion, but because it happens. Of course it doesn't always happen, but why should I be surprised at that?
I wonder now if the British especially dislike the cliche because they are one of the cultures that at least understands it, but it happens even less there.
Let me be on record as believing that win-win situations are indeed possible, and resenting the cliche much less than I did a few days ago. That the term is abused and isn't always true seems far less of a worry - since it seems to be the normal course of human interactions - than the idea that it is possible at all a rather stunning legacy for America to the world.
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I did not realize that it was a rare concept. May the idea grow and prosper.
The buying and selling process is supposed to be a win-win situation. The purchaser purchases an item he wants to purchase. The seller sells something he wants to sell. While there have been some times over the years when I have made bad decisions in my purchases, generally I have benefited from my purchases.
It comes from our free market background. As Gringo said, markets are almost always win/win. In many parts of the world (including Britain) class, family or political ties are much more important. Crushing your opponent is important to your survival.
Brits have a much more cynical corporate culture than the US. It's very "Terribly Sorry about the knife in your back". Mid level British execs really have a tough time adapting to the US business culture.
I assume so readily that win-win is a real and common phenomenon that it surprises me very much to hear people doubt it. I'm sure the concept is often abused by people who intend their part of the win to be quite real and that of their partner-in-trade to be largely imaginary, but that doesn't mean that most profitable human interactions don't leave both sides better off. If that weren't so, why would people live in societies? Why not each human in his own tree alone in the forest?
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