Maybe it's just my dirty mind. But since my second hearing of the song, with the slapping sound so prominent, Bette Davis's initials, and virtually every lyric of the song, how is this song not about BDSM? The video seems to seal the deal.
And yet search engines suggest nothing of the sort. If that was indeed the intent - of either DeShannon or Carnes - you'd think it would have leaked out by now. So I'm guessing it just isn't.