Also from the Free Press 250th Anniversary historical discussion is the famous exchange between Abigail and John Adams, excerpted here.
Abigail (full text) ...and by the way in the new Code of Laws which I suppose it will be necessary for you to make I desire you would Remember the Ladies, and be more generous and favourable to them than your ancestors. Do not put such unlimited power into the hands of the Husbands. Remember all Men would be tyrants if they could. If perticuliar care and attention is not paid to the Laidies we are determined to foment a Rebelion, and will not hold ourselves bound by any Laws in which we have no voice, or Representation.
John (full text) Depend upon it, We know better than to repeal our Masculine systems. Altho they are in full Force, you know they are little more than Theory. We dare not exert our Power in its full Latitude. We are obliged to go fair, and softly, and in Practice you know We are the subjects. We have only the Name of Masters, and rather than give up this, which would compleatly subject Us to the Despotism of the Peticoat, I hope General Washington, and all our brave Heroes would fight.
I have most frequently heard this discussed as if Abigail is being half- or even fully serious about the rebellion. In that reading, John comes off as something of a prick, dismissing it so lightly. Yet while Mrs. Adams is being sincere, she is also being intentionally humorous and hyperbolic. Only in our own era, when there are women who would mean it just as it is stated, would the harsher interpretation be automatic to some. John Adams was not that stupid. If he thought this a quiet threat of what would happen in the next decade or so if the ladies were not "remembered," he would have been more diplomatic and conciliatory in his response.
These were two people who loved and enjoyed each other, and even on serious subjects put each other first. They are both correct about the underlying issue. In the realm of violence men are more likely to be dangerous and tyrannical, and women even then knew that reining that in was of grave importance to many women. But the general (though uneven) verbal superiority of women was known then as well, though scarcely acknowledged, and Mr. Adams's humor is carefully delivered.

