Part of the gay marriage argument is the declaration that it
is unfair to give a benefit to one group of people but not another. The usual
counterargument is that such things are justified if there is some benefit to
the society as a whole. How much benefit
is required to privilege one group over another is variable, but the principle
is usually accepted.
Leave aside for the moment the separate discussion that gays
and lesbians have the same rights to get married as straights, in that they
also can marry the opposite sex – in the same way that the alcohol preferer and
the heroin preferer have the same rights and penalties, to legally buy alcohol
but not heroin, they just value those differently. That’s an interesting take, but a bit orthogonal to my thought here. For this
discussion, we will take the common framing, that straights can marry from the
the category of what they want, while homosexuals can’t.
The trend in American culture has been away from confering
benefits to some and not others. There were colonial jurisdictions in which
only property owners, or town-born, or church members could vote. For a long time only males could, often only
the white ones. We still require voters to be of a minimum age, to be citizens,
and have no felony convictions. These
are rules of convenience. If we had some
type of accurate measurement of who amongst us is the most qualified voter, the
most objective, most informed, the most thoughtful, it might theoretically
turn out to be a 17-year old immigrant in a federal pen. Not all persons
in those forbidden categories would be worse voters than all those in
the allowed categories. But we have decided, with good reason, that 17
year-olds generally don’t have sufficient wisdom to privilege their opinions
with the franchise; that citizens have more skin in the game; that felons have
too little regard for the rights of others.
The state grants licensure to people who have jumped through
certain hoops: schooling, testing, fees.
Drivers, realtors, doctors, campers, hunters. Private concerns grant privileges how they
wish. Usually a ski pass is acquired
simply for money, but you can lose it for breaking the rules. In some
circumstances, the rules will be different person to person depending on the
group they are in. Age is often a factor
here, encouraging young skiers or rewarding lifelong fishermen. Insurance companies know that not all smokers
will die young nor marathoners live long, but they confer discounts and
surcharges on the basis of the group.
Employers will note the group characteristics of HS grads or
those who stayed in one job or were in the armed services. The government will let you deduct some
charitable giving even though it varies widely in usefulness to society, or
loan you money to go to school even though that is highly variable in benefit.
For those libertarians who wish we would discontinue much licensure, I will
merely argue that the principle is an accepted one in American society, and so
might be accepted in this matter as well.
Whether that is wise is a separate discussion.
I hope you have noticed that this creates problems for both
sides of the debate. The principle is
indeed allowed in many areas. We confer
benefit to one group and not another all the time. Yet the key point is that we
must be able to show some benefit to the society for the privilege. If insisting on one-man-one-woman marriage is
indeed better for the society in some way, whether because it protects children
or protects women or protects national forests, America has every right to
limit marriage in that way. But it has
to be demonstrable.
That many straight marriages are bad already is not a solid
argument. What we need to know is
whether gay marriage will make things better or worse. OTOH, a lot of
traditional marriage defense is equally weak, simple declarations that we know
it would be better because that fits the theory.
I give weight to the argument that we have arrived at a
particular place by trial-and-error and that shouldn’t be thrown away for
theory. I don’t consider it a
controlling argument, else we would allow slavery and polygamy, which have also
lasted a long time. But it should at
least privilege the status quo while new experiments are run. Preserving the status quo is a phrase
of criticism these days – usually by those who want the benefits for their
group instead, for reasons no better (and sometimes worse) than the current
standard.
I get the arguments that a pair of adults who want to reproduce and raise children together is a special arrangement of value to society that we want to support. And I certainly agree, at least to the point of very badly wanting the government not to interfere and muck it up.
ReplyDeleteEssentially I look at nuclear childbearing families as a special case of the more general idea of private households, which I consider to be pre-political. The government should never be invading or burdening the decision of a group of people to make a lifetime mutual commitment of support and fealty under a private roof. I don't really care whether the group is large or small, or whether it involves children, or whether the children are the biological offspring of one or more member of the family. I see it as a private institution for mutual personal support, and therefore something towards which the government should adopt either a hands-off or a diffidently supportive attitude, just as it should towards other private institutions that aren't creating some kind of public nuisance (like a family-run racketeering operation).
Whether and which members of such a family are engaged in sexual activity with themselves or others is something I'd leave to their consciences and their churches, without feeling the least inclined to investigate closely, other than to protect minors.
If such a family were members of my own church, it would be clear to me (and I hope to them) that their choices in that regard were not unlimited. If they were not, I might have a duty to witness, evangelize, or remonstrate. It does not follow, as far as I can see, that I would have a duty or a right to force them to modify their sexual habits or their household composition.
I'd give them everything but the word "marriage." If people are going to engage in homosexual activity, better it should be in a framework of commitment and fidelity, etc. But they (generally) *want* the word "marriage" specifically to add a large increment to the view that homosexuality is perfectly all right and normal.
ReplyDeleteAnd that's what I don't want promoted. I don't want a falsehood (or yet another falsehood, I suppose) mortared into society. I don't expect religious objections to carry weight in the public square, but those are not the only ones: The bits just don't fit together that way; it's like preferring to eat marbles, or to walk on your hands.