Nearly all marriages, even happy ones, are mistakes: in the sense
that almost certainly… both partners might have found more suitable
mates. But the real soul-mate is the one you are actually married to.
Tolkien loved her while barely knowing her before they were married. His guardian told him he could not marry until he was 21 and not to see her. He complied, and was immensely relieved that she would even consider him the night of his 21st birthday when he wrote to her.
For what it is worth, even thought they were Catholic, she was the most welcoming of the divorcee Joy Davidman. She seems to have been an enormously gracious person.
If I recall correctly, she converted to Catholicism in order to marry him, so perhaps she was not as concerned about things like Joy Davidman's back story.
So in a way we make a choice and God ratifies it.
ReplyDeleteAnd that from a man who had "Beren" and "Luthien" carved on his and his wife's headstones.
ReplyDeleteTolkien loved her while barely knowing her before they were married. His guardian told him he could not marry until he was 21 and not to see her. He complied, and was immensely relieved that she would even consider him the night of his 21st birthday when he wrote to her.
ReplyDeleteFor what it is worth, even thought they were Catholic, she was the most welcoming of the divorcee Joy Davidman. She seems to have been an enormously gracious person.
If I recall correctly, she converted to Catholicism in order to marry him, so perhaps she was not as concerned about things like Joy Davidman's back story.
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