tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19305198.post6086421030549901344..comments2024-03-27T03:19:11.216-04:00Comments on Assistant Village Idiot: Enemy/EnemiesAssistant Village Idiothttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01978011985085795099noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19305198.post-63526940057701703422021-01-23T20:37:58.545-05:002021-01-23T20:37:58.545-05:00When I pray for my enemies, I mean the people towa...When I pray for my enemies, I mean the people toward whom I am strongly tempted to nurse a grudge. The idea is to quit wishing bad things would happen to them, to let go of resentment and imagine them as people I'd really like to see in Paradise, all these quarrels behind us.Texan99https://www.blogger.com/profile/10479561573903660086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19305198.post-9495147178975961012021-01-22T13:30:30.408-05:002021-01-22T13:30:30.408-05:00I've never had to forgive my parents; they'...I've never had to forgive my parents; they've never done me a bad thing. Or maybe, if they did, I've forgotten it.Sam L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/00996809377798862214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19305198.post-6342744025633843262021-01-22T11:32:38.799-05:002021-01-22T11:32:38.799-05:00Screwtape is often given for Confirmation, but I t...Screwtape is often given for Confirmation, but I think it is too young. I think a certain amount of experience with life, watching people make excuses for things and introspecting one's own excuses to have the letters ring true. Part of that is simply quantity of experience, but I also find that developmentally that abstract thought is still new to that age group. They can <i>follow</i> when someone walks them through it, but can only produce imperfect versions on their own. Here is one of my earliest posts on the matter: https://assistantvillageidiot.blogspot.com/2006/03/faux-logic.html . Another anecdote, I was diagramming basketball plays for the junior high team I was helping with. I quickly observed that my son, who went on to win the math award for 10th grade, and his best friend Doug, who went on to become a software engineer, could not quite follow what I was diagramming - not until they had walked through it. I thought "If Ben and Doug aren't getting this, no one else is getting it."<br /><br />Stick with Narnia. Remind her that the adult secret is that it is an adult book disguised as a children's book, and there are things throughout that children miss. Let her absorb the lessons indirectly. If she does not like fantasy literature, I am not sure what else might serve. I will think, and perhaps other readers will have ideas.<br /><br />I don't think I've directly encountered that "I'll pray for you," but I can just hear it and I want to smack 'em. It is similar to what I wrote about signing off "Peace." https://assistantvillageidiot.blogspot.com/2016/04/peace.html In the podcast they made reference to praypreaching - "Oh Lord, teach them to see the error of their ways, let them come around to my POV." Great new word.Assistant Village Idiothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01978011985085795099noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19305198.post-91353164501153382632021-01-22T09:32:12.524-05:002021-01-22T09:32:12.524-05:00Tangents and digressions:
I am considering giving...Tangents and digressions:<br /><br />I am considering giving my oldest grandchild a copy of Screwtape for her 14th birthday. Is she too young? Also note that she's not been brought up in a church-going family, though she has an uncle who is a priest. Both her parents (her other grandparents and I too, I suppose) are nominally Catholic. One of my concerns is that she and her younger sister are not receiving a full education because they will not likely understand historical/religious references. I didn't enroll my children in Catholic schools for the religious education, but because the process of enrolling them in public schools in Dallas in the 80s intimidated me. To call me an introverted wimp would not be inaccurate. <br /><br />In retrospect, I think my children got a better, more rounded education because of the years they attended parochial schools. At the very least, they know what the Seven Deadly Sins are and understand historical references to a few saints. <br /><br />There's a certain sort of person who likes to have the last word by saying "I will pray for you". I'm not talking about the ones who say that sincerely, such as in offering condolences, prayers for health, relief of other suffering, or as an expression that they desire good things to come my way. The ones I'm talking about specifically mean they are praying that I will change to their way of thinking, but they think it's hopeless and I'm not worth their time in actually trying to convince me. It's meant as an insult and that is amplified by body language and tone of voice. I recognize this partly because I recognize that I have tendencies to such meanness myself. There are two people in particular at this moment that I'd like to say either "Bless your heart" or "I'm praying for you". I think "Bless your heart" is the better choice because of the ambiguity, but I'm really hoping I have the strength to keep my mouth firmly shut. Donna B.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16771075314473811594noreply@blogger.com