tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19305198.post3447830953583340325..comments2024-03-27T03:19:11.216-04:00Comments on Assistant Village Idiot: No Really, Will Tinder Enable The Polygamies? The Answers.Assistant Village Idiothttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01978011985085795099noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19305198.post-12850631212661709582022-10-24T21:49:20.540-04:002022-10-24T21:49:20.540-04:00Tom Watson jr, the longtime head of IBM, said (in ...Tom Watson jr, the longtime head of IBM, said (in his memoirs) that when he was a teenager, he was interested in a girl in his hometown...but her mother forbade the girl to go out with him, because he was not from an Old Family.<br /><br />IBM was already a quite prominent and successful company, and young Tom was the clear heir apparent, but apparently this did not make up for the lack of the Old Family background.<br /><br />Today, I don't think parents would so likely steer their daughters away from someone for this particular reason...but they well might counsel avoidance due to lack of an 'elite' school degree, or working in a non-trendy field or industry.David Fosterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15464681514800720063noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19305198.post-65908182220312722562022-10-24T19:44:53.597-04:002022-10-24T19:44:53.597-04:00Yes, working with someone is a great way to learn ...Yes, working with someone is a great way to learn about how they react under stress and what their defaults are. But when work dating is deprecated, where else do you go? <br />Volunteer work might seem an option, but I get the distant impression that at least the more prominent NGOs are pretty woke, and would also constitute a hostile environment for men. That would leave the volunteer groups that do heavy lifting--but they'd skew heavily male.jameshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01792036361407527304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19305198.post-83838538217767741552022-10-24T15:13:19.800-04:002022-10-24T15:13:19.800-04:00I no longer read the Powerline guys because I grew...I no longer read the Powerline guys because I grew frustrated with their hammering on some issues with only partial knowledge. But i have liked them in the past and don't reject their thinking. It's just that they went far enough down the list that i go to others first. I thought the Omar situation was that she had exploited polygamy rules from her own culture to leverage immigration and status situations here, even though it was a lie. Even though it is technically off-topic here, I don't mind at all if you give us a little summary of better info.<br /><br />@ David Foster - yes, all these things are true, and they show up in the rewrite (which I have already started) better than here. I am grateful for you pointing this out. Young people hate Tinder, but they love it because it solved a real problem as traditional offline opportunities became more difficult. For Son #2 in particular, he has <i>worked</i> at very large churches - in Texas, no less - for over fifteen years and found it a difficult environment to find dates. I say it 1/4-kiddingly, and the influence of parents decreases steadily after college, but I am very disappointed in these Christian Texas mothers, a group one would think was on the extreme edge of throwing their daughters into contact with a well-employed, educated, funny, and brilliant Christian man, for doing basically nothing. It does actually play into a darker suspicion I have about rich Christians. In The Woodlands, the fact that he was not making $100K before age 30 may have kept them, mothers and daughters, from being all that interested. To which I say "So what is your real God, then?" <br /><br />Thank you for bringing this up, as it is an opportunity for me to show why I can get harsh when discussing dating in general among the young. I suppose I reserve my greatest fury for those of my own generation and that of my sons. So sue me.Assistant Village Idiothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01978011985085795099noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19305198.post-74682400956353388022022-10-24T13:35:19.704-04:002022-10-24T13:35:19.704-04:00I know you don't consider the PowerLine guys r...I know you don't consider the PowerLine guys reliable but the Ilhan Omar situation has nothing to do with polygamy (or, for the record, incest.)Christopher Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00396671757183163171noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19305198.post-73338248260133972222022-10-24T13:00:08.338-04:002022-10-24T13:00:08.338-04:00One factor in all this is that so many traditional...One factor in all this is that so many traditional venues for meeting & dating are now highly restricted or flat-out unavailable. Many workplaces now ban or strongly discourage relationships among employees, yet working with someone is one of the best ways to get to know them. Young men increasingly view campuses as a hostile environment, where any accusation against them is likely to be believed, with devastating consequences. Churches? Fewer churchgoers, especially among men...and quite a few believe that too many churches are excessively Woke and project negativity toward men.David Fosterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15464681514800720063noreply@blogger.com