tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19305198.post946128985695561279..comments2024-03-27T03:19:11.216-04:00Comments on Assistant Village Idiot: Sexual Abuse of ChildrenAssistant Village Idiothttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01978011985085795099noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19305198.post-41063079481600353732018-01-29T07:03:12.756-05:002018-01-29T07:03:12.756-05:00Johnathan, agree though I'd say with regard to...Johnathan, agree though I'd say with regard to AVI's post that even viewing abuse of children exclusively through a predator-prey dynamic will give you an incomplete picture. There is likely an element of real attraction in some cases before the abuse starts.Christopher Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00396671757183163171noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19305198.post-45374335754003877312018-01-29T01:58:13.854-05:002018-01-29T01:58:13.854-05:00Some of the Hollywood and DC me-toers were probabl...Some of the Hollywood and DC me-toers were probably willingly using sex to climb the greasy pole of status and achievement in a way that is as old as human nature. Of the others who were unwitting adult victims many might have avoided victimization, if at significant personal cost, by walking away. This puts them in a different category than the child victims of the coach, and thus it puts the coach in a different and worse category.Jonathanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08111391338812214765noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19305198.post-60342788357459214862018-01-28T19:52:28.124-05:002018-01-28T19:52:28.124-05:00I would add that the presence of power dynamics in...I would add that the presence of power dynamics in a sexual relationship is not necessarily indicative of anything bad. Lots of people seem to enjoy them, and find ways to play with each other that don't hurt either party. It's not the sex, and it's not even the power: it's the <i>harm</i> that's the issue. Grimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07543082562999855432noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19305198.post-64290274340599650672018-01-28T06:38:58.460-05:002018-01-28T06:38:58.460-05:00People do seem to ignore that the power dynamic fl...People do seem to ignore that the power dynamic flows both ways, at least to a degree. We are attracted to, and both seek and enjoy approval from people perceived as powerful. We are flattered, and we seek to capitalize on this approval to advance our own agenda. Look at the 180s done just this week in Davos.<br /><br />There is an element of this in MeToo. There are some women (Judi Dench if I recall) who Weinstein won over. There were others who went back, and while they may have successfully rejected his advances they enhanced his stature as a deal maker and therefore their own position on the A-list. The Aziz Ansari has some similarities. His date ditched the man who brought her to the party where they met, and was clearly conflicted as to how to balance her desire to get close to Ansari with his treatment of her.<br /><br />I expect that are some parents whose children made it to the Ranch that might be having trouble looking in the mirror. Christopher Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00396671757183163171noreply@blogger.com