tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19305198.post7954313987638050441..comments2024-03-27T03:19:11.216-04:00Comments on Assistant Village Idiot: Coaching WomenAssistant Village Idiothttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01978011985085795099noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19305198.post-57690174828901577682019-03-18T11:40:46.647-04:002019-03-18T11:40:46.647-04:00"some coaches can manage the personalities so..."some coaches can manage the personalities so that good players do not screw each other up"--and different people have different strategies for screwing each other up. They also have different levels of awareness of whether they're doing it, and different levels of willingness to talk about it. It's good to be able to play in different keys.<br /><br />As a very broad overgeneralization, it's fair to say most women aren't as inclined as men to react viscerally to hierarchical challenges, but they do react strongly to threats of ostracism and threats to cohesion. (This may be a little less true of highly competitive women such as sports stars, but it's still valid.) It would be a really good thing if both men and women got better at detecting the hot buttons that afflict each other, instead of arguing over which hot buttons are inherently superior. Women who can't understand the importance of hierarchical forces exasperate me, but so do men who are blind to the benefits of low-stress cooperation. We need the clarity, obedience, and rapid predictability that come from hard-fought hierarchies. We also need the ability to set aside personal pre-eminence and focus on the group's success at appropriate times. Whichever side we're best at gives us a clue which side we might want to strengthen a bit, or at least whom we might want to team up with to balance the skill set out.Texan99https://www.blogger.com/profile/10479561573903660086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19305198.post-53371093047442684442019-03-18T11:06:09.128-04:002019-03-18T11:06:09.128-04:00All good points. I would add a corollary, that a c...All good points. I would add a corollary, that a coach or manager who insists on one-size-fits-all methods should be treated warily, as insufficiently skilled to help some individuals who would thrive under a better leader, or as someone who prioritizes institutional outcomes over the welfare of the individuals in his charge.Jonathanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08111391338812214765noreply@blogger.com