tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19305198.post7493944967847742294..comments2024-03-27T03:19:11.216-04:00Comments on Assistant Village Idiot: We have No "Right To Happiness."Assistant Village Idiothttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01978011985085795099noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19305198.post-6231821560903655022015-10-07T22:53:36.047-04:002015-10-07T22:53:36.047-04:00Well put, both of you tonight - and I loved Retrie...Well put, both of you tonight - and I loved Retriever's summary quote to her children. When my mother divorced my father she did the right thing, but she underestimated the cost to the two boys.<br /><br />Ah well, my mother had poor taste in men, and that had consequences.<br />Assistant Village Idiothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01978011985085795099noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19305198.post-60189406505255103862015-10-07T22:08:29.541-04:002015-10-07T22:08:29.541-04:00Besides which, you don't just "meet"...Besides which, you don't just "meet" the "love of your life." You gradually develop romantic ties to someone if you encourage opportunities for this to happen and encourage the thoughts and behavior that allow an overwhelming feeling to grow. If you understand anything about yourself and your duties to other people, you get a grip on yourself before the feeling becomes greater than whatever self-control you possess. After a time, the infatuation subsides; if you never acted on it or encouraged it, it passes without leaving wreckage in your life and the lives of people who depend on you to behave yourself.Texan99https://www.blogger.com/profile/10479561573903660086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19305198.post-91007949390502337662015-10-07T19:40:14.351-04:002015-10-07T19:40:14.351-04:00That was why I felt like throwing things at the sc...That was why I felt like throwing things at the screen during Brokeback Mountain: the sappy mush about two men betraying their wives and the complete lack of sympathy for these women the men were breaking covenant with...I personally have the attitude that anything two consenting adults wish to do, fine, just don't do it in public, don't give me blow by blow details, don't scare the horses. I am revolted by exhibitionism (am a squeamish WASP who isn't big on PDA), but am also serious about fidelity. Joke to my kids about 'Divorce Never, Murder Maybe" On a more serious note, I have told them since they were 21 (not earlier, would not have been appropriate) about assorted black sheep members of the family who DID put their own happiness ahead of marital vows or their duties to their kids, and the HAVOC this wrought in the lives of their spouses and children. I am a total boring fuddy duddy, but my attitude is that once you're married you belong to that person forever (barring emergency exits allowable in case of abuse, criminal behaviour by spouse, persistent infidelity, or addiction). I've had romantic young uns say 'But what if you meet the love of your life?" To which I say, "Sucks to be you, then you sigh and crash the dishes in the sink, and grumble to the dog, and forget about it. " I don't understand our culture's valuation of sex as superseding ALL else: loyalty, a promise, duty, devoted companionship, lifelong commitment, shared parenthood, responsibilities, etc. Of course all of us have had the experience at some time or other of feeling temporarily overwhelmed by love/lust for someone (to quote Monty Python "I know I have"), but one doesn't have to act on the feelings. We aren't dumb beasts.Retrieverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09036341287285545932noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19305198.post-72717255477196797272015-10-03T09:02:48.073-04:002015-10-03T09:02:48.073-04:00http://www.frontpagemag.com/fpm/250972/one-million...http://www.frontpagemag.com/fpm/250972/one-million-child-victims-muslim-rape-gangs-uk-arnold-ahlert<br /><br />This is what they are dragging the West towards.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19305198.post-50923519675563696412015-09-29T15:10:11.261-04:002015-09-29T15:10:11.261-04:00I suppose people have always felt an urge to redef...I suppose people have always felt an urge to redefine their duties to exclude anything that would cause significant present unhappiness, but the urge has received a lot of reinforcement in recent decades.Texan99https://www.blogger.com/profile/10479561573903660086noreply@blogger.com