tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19305198.post5063953968514803604..comments2024-03-27T03:19:11.216-04:00Comments on Assistant Village Idiot: One PerspectiveAssistant Village Idiothttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01978011985085795099noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19305198.post-50935626620336692162012-12-18T22:21:31.336-05:002012-12-18T22:21:31.336-05:00Terri - I agree with you. I ran grief groups for ...Terri - I agree with you. I ran grief groups for a year, and the more "common" the cause of death, that part was definitely easier for people. <br /><br />In addition, the lack of people who can relate to the survivors is also tough. Even if you don't know someone who has lost a child in a car accident, the chances someone you know does are really high. The problem with these incidents is they happen all at once, so you rarely have any "been there" folks on hand to help guide you through it. Anyone who can relate is equally raw. That makes it tough.bs kinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02871717971078952304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19305198.post-14818486416119121242012-12-18T17:42:18.420-05:002012-12-18T17:42:18.420-05:00Well, in some cases our mellow NEEDS to be harshed...Well, in some cases our mellow NEEDS to be harshed. Still, it is beyond our understanding, and at these times simple answers/solutions come easily to mind. There is no panacea.Sam L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/00996809377798862214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19305198.post-9754294581927836372012-12-18T11:19:42.003-05:002012-12-18T11:19:42.003-05:00I think these events are more terrifying to people...I think these events are more terrifying to people because of the sheer randomness and incomprehensibility of the events. We all know that there are drunk, incapacitated, or elderly people who shouldn't be driving....and that they cause accidents which can kill themselves or other people. Because we know this, we are not quite as horrified when those things happen, although there will always be outrage on behalf of those who die because if it. But, we know that these things happen and that they happen in the normal course of life often enough for us to have a mental category to put them in, some pre-determined coping mechanisms or thoughts to help us deal with them.<br /><br />We don't have that same mental category for these events. We can imagine what it might be like for our children to be killed in a car accident, as awful as it might be. We can't imagine what it would be liketo have our children shredded by bullets in what we assume to be a safe nurturing place. It's just too unbelievable and awful to even consider such a thing.<br /><br />We don't have the psychic strength to deal with this even being a remote possibility.terrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12399706958844399216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19305198.post-68761682606878885942012-12-18T11:18:52.747-05:002012-12-18T11:18:52.747-05:00I think these events are more terrifying to people...I think these events are more terrifying to people because of the sheer randomness and incomprehensibility of the events. We all know that there are drunk, incapacitated, or elderly people who shouldn't be driving....and that they cause accidents which can kill themselves or other people. Because we know this, we are not quite as horrified when those things happen, although there will always be outrage on behalf of those who die because if it. But, we know that these things happen and that they happen in the normal course of life often enough for us to have a mental category to put them in, some pre-determined coping mechanisms or thoughts to help us deal with them.<br /><br />We don't have that same mental category for these events. We can imagine what it might be like for our children to be killed in a car accident, as awful as it might be. We can't imagine what it would be liketo have our children shredded by bullets in what we assume to be a safe nurturing place. It's just too unbelievable and awful to even consider such a thing.<br /><br />We don't have the psychic strength to deal with this even being a remote possibility.terrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12399706958844399216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19305198.post-15811936315940817322012-12-18T10:26:18.482-05:002012-12-18T10:26:18.482-05:00What I see is a kind of spasm away from a creature...What I see is a kind of spasm away from a creature in our midst who looks like an ordinary young man but turns out to be someone who could shoot down dozens of young children in cold blood out of the blue one day. There's nowhere to fit him.<br /><br />I agree, we try to make it about the unbearable pain of the surviving families, but that kind of pain happens every day, just not usually in sensational contexts.Texan99https://www.blogger.com/profile/10479561573903660086noreply@blogger.com