tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19305198.post4881721076875091182..comments2024-03-27T03:19:11.216-04:00Comments on Assistant Village Idiot: Mate PreferencesAssistant Village Idiothttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01978011985085795099noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19305198.post-74645160705571817632009-02-12T02:06:00.000-05:002009-02-12T02:06:00.000-05:00What interests me is that I've watched my 3 daught...What interests me is that I've watched my 3 daughters make their choice of husbands and wondered if my 2 sons were ever going to 'settle' down.<BR/><BR/>One daughter and her husband pretty much 'fell in love on first sight' their first year in college and spent the next three years testing that. They've been happily married now for 5 years.<BR/><BR/>Another daughter dated many, many men and did not marry until her late 30s because she was waiting for the right man. Luckily for her, she found him. They have been married for 6 years and have three lovely (I'm not biased) children. I think she's incredibly lucky to have finally found the 'right' man in her late 30s. This is not the way it normally works.<BR/><BR/>Yet another daughter thought she was marrying her soul-mate, but found him to be a needy soul. I love him, and will treat him as a son-in-law should he ever need anything.<BR/><BR/>She divorced him and found a man that truly is her soul-mate but won't let her run over him like a bulldozer (that ability actually made her very unhappy) and he's the father of a lovely granddaughter.<BR/><BR/>My two sons are reluctant to marry because they've been taken advantage of by calculating and cruel females. Maybe someday...<BR/><BR/>I think the point I'm trying (so ineloquently) to make is that nothing has changed, but perhaps everything has.<BR/><BR/>Does that help?<BR/><BR/>Men and women have so many more choices today than they did in the 30s. Sometimes that works out well, sometimes it doesn't.<BR/><BR/>I have two wonderful sons-in-law who did not demand virginity from their wives and I think (of course) they made the right choices.<BR/><BR/>I have two sons who do not demand virginity in a 'significant' other, but would demand loyalty.<BR/><BR/>As for that other daughter, she and her husband are the fairy tale couple. They even had the fairy tale wedding and honeymoon to go along with it. It can happen at times, enjoy it when it does.<BR/><BR/>I worry about my sons. My daughters are doing fine.Donna B.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16771075314473811594noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19305198.post-304800800467629462009-02-11T08:39:00.000-05:002009-02-11T08:39:00.000-05:00The "pleasing disposition" one makes me laugh. Wh...The "pleasing disposition" one makes me laugh. When I described my husband to a high school friend I made mention of his ability to get along with anyone. I was surprised when she heartily praised my wisdom in this...she said that this sort of "pleasing disposition" was the thing she had most undervalued when she was dating, and the one thing she would change about her current husband if she could. She went on quite the rant about how she was always having to deal with certain things (like her kids teachers or utility company screw ups) because if she had her husband do it, he'd get in a fight with them and they'd have to move to solve the problem. <BR/><BR/>As for chastity, I wonder if you replaced it with "strong sexual morals" if it would be more palatable. I think that in the 30s "chastity" connoted (other than the obvious) a deeper commitment to monogamy than those who weren't. I think people still want that, they just don't always know how to express it.bs kinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02871717971078952304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19305198.post-45994610549383459102009-02-10T10:18:00.000-05:002009-02-10T10:18:00.000-05:00It would be interesting to compare the priority gi...It would be interesting to compare the priority given to "pleasing disposition" among those who have actually *lived* with a partner vs those who have dated but not lived with members of the opposite sex. I'd be it would be significantly higher.<BR/><BR/>Also, there's something archaic about the phrase.David Fosterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15464681514800720063noreply@blogger.com